Chuck: Exquisite. Exceeding even my high expectations. Jenny: I’m only here for the good of the school, Chuck. Chuck: I’m only here for Blair.

If you can relate to these, know that you are not alone. Unrealistic expectations can put a lot of strain on a relationship. But, with a little work, you can overcome them.

Must I adapt my expectations to a new normal in etiquette? -- MANNERLY MISTER IN TENNESSEE. DEAR MANNERLY MISTER: The topic of thank-you notes is one of the most common complaints I get from readers.

• “My expectation is that you will give me a hint if you think there may be a change coming up.” Me: No, not happening. I try to squelch rumors, not spread them.